I am one of the millions of women who are affected by fibroids. I was diagnosed with fibroids — smooth muscle tumors that form in the uterus — in 2001 at the age of 30. From that moment on, I began a 14-year battle to overcome fibroids, the resulting infertility and a litany of other medical challenges. The road to my healing was a long and grueling one that included:
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While our family enjoyed a storybook ending, my heart aches for families who are still fighting fibroids and infertility. The fibroids epidemic affects tens of millions of women. One study found 70% of White women and up to 90% of Black women will develop fibroids by age 50. Many of these women have their personal and professional lives derailed by infertility, hemorrhaging, life-threatening anemia, debilitating cramps, embarrassing incontinence and so much more.
Having experienced these symptoms, here are three critical things that help me:
Making Today Count: I focus only on the three or four things each day that will have the greatest impact on my overall vision and goals. This means getting comfortable saying “no” to other people’s last-minute projects, as well as learning how to accept and recognize what is and is not in my control.
Mindfulness: I pause several times daily — at least once every two to three hours — for a mindful minute of silence. It also includes prioritizing prayer as part of my daily ritual to release my cares and concerns.
Movement: I engage in mind and body practices that involve gentle movements and postures with mental focus, breathing and relaxation.
Mandatory fun: I prioritize people, things and activities that fill me with peace and joy.
I cannot imagine what my life would be like today if I’d allowed the pain of my process to stop my pursuit of motherhood. One of the greatest lessons learned on my journey of healing was that I had to stop being superwoman and start prioritizing my spiritual, emotional and physical health. It’s time you do the same.
About Gessie Thompson
Hope Beyond Fibroids CEO Gessie Thompson coaches women to heal their wombs from fibroids and infertility holistically.